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Our attachment style determines everything in our relationships… from who we want as our partners to how our relationships will end. This video will help you understand how attachment patterns in adult intimate relationships are guided by the emotional bonds developed at the initial phases of childhood. | The Minds Journal

Verified The attachment research calls the instinct to push when you are wanting to be close "protest" behavior. In childhood (specific to an insecure anxious ambivalent attachment pattern), it is an adaptive way to keep an inconsistently attuned parent aware of you. But in an adult relationship it is a maladaptive pattern that will only create more contempt in your relationship. Protest looks like this: You are hurt or lonely because you have been physically or emotionally apart from your partn